Marriage.
A marriage more beautiful than our wedding!
Even before David and I were married I told him that I wanted a marriage more beautiful than our wedding! We wanted to share some things that we’ve been doing (for almost 6 years) to make this a reality. We hope it encourages you and that you can find a thing or two to implement in your marriage.
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Pray together daily, even if it’s half-asleep prayer. We believe the most important part of a marriage is your personal relationship with God.
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We ask each other this: what are three things I do to bless you and what are three things I can do to bless you more? This is usually a great conversation starter and a great way to know what each other needs.
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We try to always “out-bless” the other person even when (especially when) you don’t feel like it.
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Financial oneness. We make sure we are on the same page with nearly every financial decision. We discuss almost everything we purchase. Originally we agreed to check with each other about any purchase over $100 but in reality we talk about almost everything before we buy it. If you talk about the little purchases, it will be easier to talk about the big ones.
- Have sex regularly (our “regular” is about 2-3 times a week) even if you aren’t “in the mood” – this is so important for oneness. Go back to point one, prayer – when you pray together, sex will be that much better as you two are spiritual one. Sex cements the bond and union as husband and wife. Keep in mind that different seasons of life will change your sex like after having a newborn, it wouldn’t happen as often.
- Read marriage related devotionals. Our favorite so far is Dennis and Barbara Rainey’s Moments Together for Couples.
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Effective Communication. If anything is not right, something one of us said or a look that one of us gave, we talk about it and usually that same day. There are no secrets, not even little ones. Sometimes it may feel silly to share because it’s just a little detail but it matters.
- Vacation together, just the two of you. Last year we went to Northern Italy for our five year anniversary. It was a dream vacation! After that trip, we decided to take a big trip like that every five years and to save a little money every month for the next one. It took hours of planning (and a powerpoint to convince David at first) but it was the most amazing vacation! It honestly took our relationship to another level as husband and wife.
- Find shared hobbies. With the little free-time we have, we enjoy biking, cooking/baking, and watching cooking or HGTV shows. Find hobbies you have in common and do them together! Be sure to laugh while doing them. 🙂
Our hope is that your marriage is strengthened in this season! May the Lord bless your sacred union. These habits have really helped our marriage and we pray it helps yours.
Sending our love,
Gayle and David
